How to Say “You’re Gay” in Tongan

By Lena Ruth • Updated October 3, 2026

'oku ke fakaleiti

The Tongan phrase for "you're gay" is 'oku ke fakaleiti.

This phrase is used to tell someone that they are homosexual.

Did you know?

The root word leiti is a loanword derived from the English word 'lady'.
The prefix faka- in fakaleiti functions like the English suffix '-like', meaning the term literally translates to 'in the manner of a lady'.
In Tongan culture, fakaleiti often refers to a specific social identity that transcends mere sexual orientation, encompassing a unique gender expression.

Example conversation

Two friends are talking about their personal lives.

Akuila

Sina, 'oku ou faka'amu ke 'ilo.
Sina, I want to know.
Sina

Ko e hā 'oku ke faka'amu ke 'ilono?
What do you want to know?
Akuila

'Oku ke fakaleiti?
Are you gay?
Sina

'Ikai, 'oku 'ikai ko e'ku.
No, I am not.

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About The Author

Lena Ruth

Kia Ora! I'm Lena, your friendly language enthusiast with an uncanny love for the Polynesian dialect, especially Tongan. When I'm not creating comprehensive guides to help demystify basic Tongan phrases - from pet names like "beautiful woman" to fiery expressions like "you're mad" - I enjoy reading East Asian literature, taking peaceful walks by the beach or having fun cooking exotic recipes from various Polynesian islands. Mālō aupito!

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