こちらこそ
kochirakoso
The Japanese way to say "same to you" is こちらこそ (kochirakoso).
こちらこそ is used to return a greeting, a compliment or a wish. It effectively conveys the meaning that "no, it is I who should say that to you."
Meaning: I wish to you what you have just wished to me (phrase)
What does it mean word for word?
The phrase is composed of kochira (meaning "this direction" or "this side") and the particle koso, which emphasizes the preceding word.
Which one should you use?
While English speakers often use "same to you" to return a wish (such as "Have a nice day"), こちらこそ is more commonly used to return expressions of gratitude or politeness, such as "Nice to meet you" or "Thank you".
Is there a formal and an informal way to say it?
The phrase is polite and is suitable for use in both business and social settings.
How do you pronounce it?
kochirakoso
Did you know?
- If you use the more formal version こちらこそ in a heated argument, it can sound dismissive or sarcastic, as if you are coldly redirecting a sentiment back to the opponent.
- Because it relies on spatial terms like 'this side', the phrase follows a logic of 'directional politeness' common in Japanese, where much of the language is built on where people are positioned relative to each other.
- The phrase avoids using the word 'you' entirely, which is common in Japanese to prevent sounding too direct or aggressive in social interactions.
Examples in context
- 同じく、ありがとう！Same to you, thanks!
- こちらこそ、いつもありがとうございます。Kochira koso, itsumo arigatou gozaimasu.It is I who should thank you, as always.
Example conversation
Misaki and Hiroto are exchanging pleasantries after a meeting.
- 美咲 Misakiよろしくお願いします。Yoroshiku onegaishimasu.I look forward to working with you.
- 大翔 Hirotoこちらこそ、よろしくお願いします。Kochira koso, yoroshiku onegaishimasu.Same to you, I look forward to working with you.
- 美咲 Misakiでは、失礼します。Dewa, shitsurei shimasu.Well, excuse me (goodbye).
- 大翔 Hirotoお疲れ様でした。Otsukaresama deshita.Good job today.
