Ways to say it
| German | IPA | Note |
|---|---|---|
| Freund | masculine | |
| Boyfriend | /ˈboɪ̯ˌfɹɛnt/ | masculine |
| fester Freund | masculine |
The term Freund is the most common way to say 'boyfriend' in German and can be used in both formal and informal situations. While Freund can mean both 'friend' and 'boyfriend', using possessive pronouns like 'mein' (my) is the standard way to imply a romantic relationship. To describe a partner in a very committed or serious relationship, you might use the term Lebenspartner (life partner).
Which one should you use?
The word Freund is ambiguous and can mean both 'friend' and 'boyfriend' depending on the context. To explicitly clarify that a relationship is romantic and committed rather than platonic, you can use fester Freund (steady boyfriend). Younger generations in Germany often use the anglicism Boyfriend to avoid this ambiguity entirely.
Is there a formal and an informal way to say it?
Freund is versatile and suitable for both formal and informal contexts. The anglicism Boyfriend is considered informal and is primarily used by younger people.
Is it said differently in some regions?
In Austria, the slang term GöGa (short for Göttergatte) is used. While it literally means 'husband', it can also be used informally to refer to a boyfriend.
What mistakes should you avoid?
Be careful with the use of articles: saying ein Freund (a friend) usually implies a platonic relationship, whereas saying mein Freund (my friend) is the way to imply 'my boyfriend'.
When do people say it?
Couples in Germany often use terms of endearment such as Schatz (sweetheart/treasure) or Liebling (darling/sweetie).
Did you know?
- While Schatz is a common term of endearment for a boyfriend, it literally translates to 'treasure'.
- The English word 'friend' and the German word Freund share the same Proto-Indo-European root, meaning 'to love'.
- To signal that a relationship is serious and exclusive, Germans use the adjective fest in fester Freund, which literally means 'solid' or 'firm'.
Examples in context
- Er war mein erster fester Freund.He was my first boyfriend.This sentence shows how to use fester Freund to describe a first romantic partner.Tatoeba #8839777 by wolfgangth, translation #1654332 by Spamster
- Tom war mein erster fester Freund.Tom was my first real boyfriend.This sentence uses fester Freund to describe a first real boyfriend.Tatoeba #1916579 by Zaghawa, translation #3469934 by Hybrid
- Ich hoffe, er ist nicht ihr fester Freund.I hope he's not her boyfriend.This sentence demonstrates how to use fester Freund in a question about someone's relationship status.Tatoeba #6534116 by fromBerlin, translation #6533481 by Hybrid
- Ich möchte Ihnen meinen Freund vorstellen.I would like to introduce my boyfriend to you.
- Mein Freund und ich gehen heute ins Kino.My boyfriend and I are going to the cinema today.
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Sources
- Wiktionary, “boyfriend” translations and entries Boyfriend, CC BY-SA 4.0, dump of 2026-09-26.
- Word origins: Wiktionary entries Boyfriend, Freund, CC BY-SA 4.0.
- Example sentences: Tatoeba CC BY 2.0 FR.
